Advice for the Aspiring Adamic Woman
Dear Eliyah,
In Jewish women’s groups I hear this verse being quoted, “The woman will surround the male,” which is used to support the notion that in the future women will be on a higher level than men. Whereas now the man “surrounds” and encircles the female, its fundamental nature will change, and instead, the woman of the future will surround and encircle the male. I never really understood what this means. Is this what the Adamic woman is about?
Sincerely,
Going in Circles
Dear Going in Circles,
The verse you mention is from the prophet Jeremiah (31:32), “For HaShem has created a new thing on the earth: a woman will surround a man.” This is well-known to be a difficult and enigmatic verse. It is often translated allegorically, e.g., “a woman shall go after a man,” “a woman will protect a man,” “a woman will shelter a man” or “a woman will court a man.” But “A female will surround a man” is the most literal translation. From the perspective of the Kabbalah centered Adamic woman, the literal meaning of a verse is where we often find our deepest truth, but it pushes us to go deeper — discovering the literal meaning also within a higher dimension. This is the case here for sure.
This verse is a formula that is teaching us about the male and the female energies, known (in the Kabbalah School of the Ari zal and the Gaon of Vilna) as HuG, for short. This is the dance of the Hasadim and the Gevurot. HaShem has two kinds of light, i.e., two modes of divinity. They are the straight, expanding masculine light and the curved, contracting feminine light [Please take a look at that section where this is explained]. “Surround” (or encircle) is the literal meaning of the mystery word here in question. The “rounding” of the surrounding is precisely so, as this is the curved, feminine, encircling light. On the surface, however, this term appears to imply that the “new thing” will be that the female energy will be on top, i.e., greater or more encompassing than the male. Rather, from an Adamic perspective, the “surrounding light” is the field of female energy that will now be hermetically sealed inside of the orb of God’s (Adam’s) consciousness. It is “surrounding” from the inside, but it is so powerful that her waves of feminine energy radiate outward through the surrounding covering or “firmament” of the Adam Messiah’s own consciousness. This is the same intent contained in the famous verse, “The power-woman (gevurot) is a crown-diadem for her husband (hasadim)”. (Aishet chayil ataret baalah,” Proverbs 31:10). In other words, the act of “surrounding” is from the “inside-out”, so that the light of the female consciousness is shining through the light of the male cranium. It is so luminous and bright that, if one were to be on the outside, all you would see is the secret of the Divine Feminine emanated out from a hidden source. In other words, you won’t see the “Him” at all, you will only see the “Her”! Yet, the “Her” will be emanating out from within the inner lining of the “Him”. (This transformation or inversion is also alluded to in the idea that “The [female] moon will become as bright as the [masculine] sun,” as known. But did you also know that the sun will simultaneously become 70 times greater than the brightness of the “new moon”? This is precisely so because the “new moon” will be inside of the new sun pushing it way beyond its own limits!)
By the way, the process of this “reversal” or inversion has already long begun (e.g., with the various women’s movements taking off in the 1960s). Our female energies continue to exponentially increase. If, however, our collective super-powerful, curved, contracting and implosive Divinity is not inverted to go back “outside-in” into the inner lining (or coating) of the orb of mitigating and sweetening energy of the hasadim, then that is what mutates into the blackhole of “Lilith” energy (which is a whole other story). For all women (and men) that is not good news because it is the antithesis of redeeming the Shechinah. The “new thing” that HaShem is creating in the world is the secret of the surrounding aura of the Godly love emanating from the union of the Holy One and His Shechinah. The “crowning” effect, however, of the female aura is not surrounding from the outside, but rather She is surrounding Him from the inside-out! Now, that is certainly a “new thing on the earth”! This is a glimpse of the Adamic woman of the Messianic Era. She is in eternal, sacred zivug-union with the Adamic man. Together they are the completed Adamic Messiah.
Dear Eliyah,
I hope you can offer me some advice with my marriage. I have read a lot of the material from the Sisters of Solomon. Although so far, I don’t understand everything, the idea of the Adamic woman resonates with me, especially the stuff about the Song of Songs and sacred sexuality, but sadly this is my very problem. Both me and my husband are ba’alei teshuva. We are part of a charedi community, and my husband is in Kollel learning Torah day and night. He is truly a righteous man — a humble tzadik — and is very meticulous with his halachic observance (as I also try to be). We are in our first year of marriage (no children yet but with HaShem’s help soon!). This is what I guess is called an “intimacy issue”. Both of us love each other, but I have not had a single orgasm since we were married! He tries to be sensitive and patient with me, but
I just can’t get to that “place”. I think he thinks he is fulfilling his halachic obligation that the woman must climax before the man [included in the Biblical mitzvah of “Her conjugal rights he will not diminish”] because I make a few moans, but frustratingly, this is not the case. I have not spoken to him about this, because I don’t think it is his problem. It is not that I am not orgasmic. To the contrary, in my former high school and college days, before I found my way back to Torah, I have had a number of boyfriends and I reached climax virtually every time. And now to add insult to my injury, after reading your chapter on the connection between the female orgasm and the Ohr Ganuz, I feel that if I can’t experience the sacredness of the Ohr Ganuz of my own orgasm (which is supposed to be a driving aspiration of the Adamic woman) then I am a spiritual failure. (If it makes any difference, my husband was not a virgin when we married as he had a long-term girlfriend or two before he became a ba’al teshuvah). What is wrong with me?
Thanking you in advance,
Craving Kosher Climax
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